How to Determine if Your Spouse is Cheating

These steps were proffered by Cheyanna and Ben Rubenstein who are relationship experts. Read and Judge yourself.


Steps
1
Trust your instincts. If you have a feeling that something is wrong, don't ignore it.

2
Watch for a sudden change in your spouse's routine. Write down exactly when your spouse goes to work, goes to the gym, goes for lunch, etc. The routine may vary due to the work that your spouse does, so sometimes it is hard to tell. One telling sign is finding that s/he is going on more work trips, or working later hours than usual. Call your spouse's place of work when he or she is supposed to be there, and see if he or she picks up.
3
Ask your spouse why his routine has changed. While you are doing this watch their eye movement. If they cannot look you in the eye as you are looking into theirs then that is another cheating spouse sign. Usually when people lie they tend to not make eye contact, or fidget as they are telling the lie. They come to focus on an object that is around them rather than looking you straight in the eye. It is as if they are hiding something.
4
Look out for unusual behavior. When they answer their cell phone, do they often flee somewhere out of earshot? Do they go on strange or unusual outings and insist on you staying behind? Is their reaction odd or suspicious when you confront them about these outings?
5
Watch your credit card bills. Are there any charges you do not recognize, such as for restaurants, hotels, recreational activities, etc? Confront them about these charges. If their answer is elusive, unclear or outright suspicious, that's definitely a bad sign.
6
Watch your phone bills. See if there is a number on there that you do not recognize that your spouse may have called. If you can, call this number, and explain that you got this number off of your phone bill, and was wondering where it came from. Also an alternative is to either just hang up, or say “Sorry Wrong Number”. If you ask questions, sometimes you will get the truth, and sometimes you will not. Listen for clues that might make it seem like something is going on.
7
Be straightforward. Ask your husband or wife if they have been cheating on you. Most will lie, but some will tell the truth. Again you have to watch their eyes and listen to their voices. Watch to see how angry they get while doing so. If they go ballistic, or become angrier than usual, it's very possible they're lying.